Three Years Into Forever- A Personal Post | Sarah Harris Photography | PNW Photographer
Being married is pretty wonderful. My husband and I dated for nearly six years before tying the knot, and honestly, there wasn't this whole new feeling of "OMG! We're married!" and or an adjustment to married life once we finally did. But, I loved knowing he is my person forever and that feeling became really real once we did. We may only be three years into a lifetime together, and we've already had to get through some very tough times that I don't think either of us would've gotten through without each other. I do believe he is my soulmate, in every sense of the word. And, I may be a little emotional typing this because I am so grateful he's my person and what he has taught me in the nearly nine years we have been together now.
Reflecting on the things I have learned in 3 years of marriage:
1. I've learned to be more relaxed and spontaneous, and he has learned to let me be a planner. If I could plan out every single moment of my life, I would. But, being married to someone who is more about embracing the moment and going with the flow has caused me to learn to relax and enjoy life, and not be looking so far into the future. Living in the moment and being present is such a wonderful thing!
2. Relationships grow and change, but they should always remain supportive and respectful. I am nowhere near the same person I was nine years ago when we started dating, and he is not the same person either. We have evolved with each other through the different experiences, both good and bad, we've encountered together. When we met, I wasn't even in my 20's and it really wasn't until recently that I felt like I have grown into my own skin and found who I really am. Mike was very new into his career when we met, and we fought through those growing pains together. I've watched him grow with such confidence in his life and career, and now he is doing the same for me as I embrace this journey and he continually cheers me on to keep trying harder. We've grown with each other, and it wouldn't have happened without supporting and loving one another through it.
3. I've learned to love and respect our fundamental differences and not sweat it. I am not a neat freak in the least bit. I can be messy. My husband hates clutter. And this is something we will both continually work on because of the insanity of our current work schedules. But, knowing these differences about each other means that we give each other grace when needed. We help each other out when we know the other won't have time to get to something. We're a team and I love that about our marriage.
4. Our careers mean our schedules are insane. ALL. THE. TIME. We get into months where the only time we spend together is 5 minutes of snuggling after the alarm goes off in the morning. We both maybe get one to two days off a month very frequently, and usually those do not end up being together. So, we've made a point to take time to block our schedules for a vacation, and this is extremely important to us. That is the time I get to see his face every single day and truly appreciate those moments with him. Those trips are what have helped us bond, reconnect and grow closer together. For instance, before the start of his football travel this August and the second half of wedding season for me, we took a very quick trip to Costa Rica. Three uninterrupted days of bliss in our favorite country. I truly love those memories we are making together.
I am so excited to see what is in store for us in the years to come, and what we continue to learn together. Life is one incredible adventure, and I am so lucky to get to do life with him.